Call it a pet peeve or just me being anal, but I hate it when someone calls me ma'am solely because my husband is an officer. I will accept it at formal military things, but I despise it in casual conversation. I am, in a way, offended by it at times. What the crap? Offended by common curtsies. Yes. Somewhat. I noticed my aversion to ma'am at Ft. Rucker. I was trapped in military hell for a year. All I wanted to do was get back to my career that was on pause for his training and my pregnancy. I was so ready for a badge and a gun and the craziness that is what I love to do. I did not want to be reminded that in the eyes of the military I was nothing. I was an accessory for my husband. I was ma'am solely because he was sir. Warrant officers would come over to study and for a home cooked meal frequently. Two of them especially became close with us. I liked having them come around, but because of CJ's rank they called me ma'am ALL THE TIME...
I was told by a coworker who is former military that I will be "The worst army wife ever". I am proud to say he was right!